Theres a girl thats jealous of me because she likes my boyfriend. my boyfriend and i have been on and off for a year, basically being off then we aren't at school together (summer breaks, when we graduate, etc.). we're both allowed to do whatever we want- and we do just that. we don't get particularly jealous when we sleep with other people, as long as a relationship isn't formed. i wasn't at school last term (fall term) and he ended up sleeping with a girl during that time. but when i came back to school, we were dating exclusively again- i didn't think anything of the girl really, and once i met her we were friendly and she was really nice to me. but this girl had just come to our university fall term. so she had no idea about my boyfriend and i- in her head, once i came back to school, i just showed up out of no where and "stole her man"… meaning, she had a crush on him but he had only liked her physically. once she realized that him and i were dating, she lost her sh**- i kinda thought this would happen, but i didn't think it would be so dramatic- i thought she might be bummed and that would be the end of it. no. she was bitter as hell. since shes best friends with one of our best friends, we see her around a lot at parties and kick backs. and now when i see her, her mood just goes south immediately and she starts to comment on every tiny thing i say. i jokingly told my boyfriend once, before the morning of a midterm, "ill kill you if i miss this midterm tomorrow because of you". she doesn't understand that this is how him and i flirt/joke. she freaked and started yelling about how i shouldn't blame him for that… then later that night she started yelling again when i was talking to her friend about something totally mundane and i said something that she took the wrong way. many times she'll go up to one of her friends if im right there infront of her and audibly say my name, obviously so i hear it. many of these instances have been happening for the past month- the thing is, everytime it happens i don't react. when she begins trying to "fight me" like the sentences above, i don't even look at her or acknowledge that she said anything. i always try to take the high road anyway and im not gonna bully a girl, especially when i know shes just doing this because she's sad that her crush has a girlfriend. which i get because i've been there too. but more than that- everytime she says something like this and i dont react, it firesback on her. if i was to react, then we would both be angry, mean girls who are obsessed with a boy and can't deal with it in a humane way. but since i dont, she just seems like a very jealous girl, which is obvious to those around us. she still flirts with my boyfriend all the time too, which is even more confusing, because because shes been saying this stuff its made him angry and dislike her too (more than anything because it shows that shes catty and a mean girl, which are both unattractive traits). so shes essentially pushing herself away from him anyways. so yeah- i think this might be building up to a climax where shes really going to go off, or one of my friends might say something, or whatever. hopefully it doesn't get to that point. i would like to talk it out with her, but theres no real nice or welcoming way to say "i know you're jealous of me" haha or "sorry im having sex with the guy you like" but i really would like to come to a conclusion with her. anyways, we'll see!